BANGOR — Mary Weston MacGregor left us on January 18, 2022, one day before her 93rd birthday. Mary passed away peacefully at her 67-year-old home, where she raised her family and cared for friends and many generations of young people who lived in her neighborhood. As a child of depression, Mary wanted to make sure everyone had a warm home to come to.
She was the daughter of Irish Kitchen Whitney and Ralph Clifton Weston, born in Skowhegan on January 19, 1929.
She was predeceased by her parents; her husband, Roy A. MacGregor; his sister, Ruth W. Brophy, his brother, Ralph M. Weston and his wife Dolores B. Weston.
Mary is survived by her four daughters, Terry MacGregor and her life partner Bill Smith of Dresden, Deborah Maines and her husband Douglas of Falmouth, Lynn Ann MacGregor of Bangor and Jodi MacGregor and her life partner Theresa Amirault of Bangor. She is also survived by her sister-in-law, Marjorie Coughlin of Kansas City, Mo., and her brother-in-law, Richard Brophy and his wife Sylvia of Livermore.
She was loved and admired by her five grandchildren; 12 great-grandchildren; and several nieces and nephews. The role Mary cherished the most was being “Grandmother and Aunt Mary” to everyone!
Mary attended Goodwill Hinckley School for Children and credits it with many valuable lessons about survival, life, manners and appreciation for hard work. She learned those lessons well, for there was no one more attentive to the wants and needs of others than Mary MacGregor. What an extraordinary woman!
She was an avid athlete and member of the winning Lawrence Girls High School Basketball team, graduating in 1947, and did not lose a game in four years. She was very proud of Cindy Blodgett for carrying on the beautiful traditions of Lawrence! Mary loved the Red Sox, as seen in her photo, and was known to wear a radio headset during games when attending a wedding or church service so she didn’t miss a game!
She married Roy A. MacGregor on July 2, 1948, which she regaled as “the year I married the wrong man”, and they spent 68 years together until his passing, raising four strong women to his image.
Mary loved her gardens and thanks to her green thumb, her family, friends and neighbors were able to enjoy the fruits of her labor. In recent years, she’d lay on the ground weeding her gardens, startling passers-by. His passion for animals, and dogs in particular, was evident in his breeding and training of poodles, springer spaniels, a border collie, and his friendship with all four-legged creatures. Never backing down from a challenge, at 79, Mary raised a 60-pound Great Dane puppy as a surprise Christmas present for her granddaughter, Amy!
She was invested in her family and knew no bounds to teach and support them, for years taking them to Greenville to ski (even though she didn’t ski), and as a lifelong dream, taking her extended family of 21 people at the Calgary Stampede, teach everyone toc toc (a family favorite card game), complete the ice bucket challenge, join in a Tik Tok dance, and jump off the Junk of Pork!
As Mary’s door was always open, a cherished friendship began when a 7-year-old neighborhood boy met Mary one day, and he never left. Brendan Craig, who is now in college, stayed by her side every day during her final week. He explains that “Mary said she really liked me, because I reminded her of herself when she was young.” Their mutual friendship is one we all admire.
Her great-granddaughter, Bella Novaria, moved into Mary’s home to attend nursing school and immediately applied her knowledge as a caregiver to Mary. Bella’s huge heart and positive spirit was a joy for Mary, and when she and Brendan teamed up to make sure there was always fun in the house, “B&B Adventures” was born.
Mary’s life will be celebrated on the weekend of May 21, and we invite you to join us in celebrating this wonderful woman, mother, friend and grandmother, queen of our hearts! Details to follow.
Love, Family by Mary Weston MacGregor
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in honor of Mary.
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